Our culture is emotionally out-of-whack. We live in a maze of thoughts, media, culture, people, noise, words, screens, air, and confusion. Through our lives, we’re expected to move through these experiences and derive meaning from them.
* We’re supposed to figure out our lives.
* We’re supposed to have it all together.
But we don’t. We fail. We’re not perfect people – we weren’t born with the ability to do things right on the first try. And we all – regardless of who we are – come to this life with our own set of problems and issues.
It’s just that some of the problems we carry, are mental.
* They’re emotional. And they’re ruining our lives.
More people with emotional issues are seeking treatment than ever before. We live in a world where everyone is just as lost, as scared, and as confused as you are, but no one’s talking about it. In a word, we are emotionally unfit. So how do we fix this?
The first step toward gaining emotional fitness
It doesn’t seem acceptable to say, "I don’t feel like I’m enough, or, I don’t feel emotionally together." It doesn’t feel acceptable to tell regular friends that you feel shame, fear, or emotional stagnation. But the truth is that the first step to solving your emotional issues is taking responsibility for them. It’s addressing that "hey, this is real". And "hey, this needs to be fixed."
If you think the strongest people on the planet are people without problems, guess what? You are dead wrong. Because from the famous to the unknown, the strongest people on this planet are people whose lives are defined by difficulty.
So what do you do now?
Address it. Commit to working on your emotional fitness. And then, proceed…
The Underlying Catalyst of All Emotional Problems
There’s one thing that determines whether or not you are emotionally healthy. What is it? Your thoughts. Any emotional health book that tells you not to watch your thoughts or even address them, is lying to you.
So what do you do?
First, do a self-diagnosis:
* What are your thoughts like?
* What are the things you say to yourself?
*When you do something, what goes on in your head?
The root of solving your emotional problems, is solving the issue of your reaction to everyday life. Because life packs a punch. What matters is how you mentally handle those punches.
How you handle the punches is how you handle your life. And these reactions all start as thoughts, whether immediate or drawn out. So look at them, play with them, and understand: they can be changed. Your brain is a neural patterned network.
Even if you are used to telling yourself, ‘You are not good enough’, the brain has the neuroplasticity for you to actually go in, say something different, and create a positive thought loop.
All it takes is work.